Manila, March 2018
Two years ago, I matched with Kevin on Tinder. He was 5’10” and handsome, cultured and well-traveled,1 and was the heir to a small paint supply empire that had business all over the country. On top of that, he was an archer, which, considering by Filipino boy standards was pretty fucking unique. Our online conversations were sporadic because he had a busy work schedule, and I wasn’t sure if he was even interested in me because while he was responsive to my questions, he wasn’t engaging in conversation. By this point, it’s a bit obvious that we had never met for a date.
By March, the cute Aussie and I continued to talk online. I had already booked a flight to Australia in June, and I had mentioned a few times that I wanted to see him again. I could never tell if he was excited to see me or if he even wanted to because by then, our relationship2 had become a little stale, not unlike my relationship with Diego a few weeks after coming home from New York.3 But there would be times when he would say something that would remind me that he was a hot guy who happened to be into me, a species more endangered than the sumatran rhinoceros.4 The uncertainty of who Andrés and I were to each other made it difficult to say yes to a date with Kevin when he finally asked me out.
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